giving up on good - MORIAH!


Hey, ladies! Jessi gave me permission to hack into her blog and guest post today while she's off on vacation with her darling family. If you don't know me already, my name is Moriah and I write over at Moriah Makes, a lifestyle blog about faith, family, and creative inspiration. I also run a lil' Etsy shop where I enjoy selling handmade goodies for mamas and their babies. Hop on over and say hello!

Since becoming a full-time stay-at-home-mom, I've tried and tried again to figure out how to become the mother in this picture:


If I could meet the mother in this picture, I'd really love to ask her a few quick questions:

Hey, Lady! How in the world did you find time during the day, when you have little ones on opposite nap schedules that don't allow you a minute of alone time, to jump in the shower? 

After taking said shower, assuming that you shaved your legs and pits, shampooed and conditioned the snarls out of your hair, and lathered your entire body in scented lotion, how did you find the time to blow dry, curl your hair, apply makeup, and put on your sexy house-wife ensemble without your house being burnt to a crisp by your unattended children? 

After spending the majority of your afternoon making yourself look presentable for your husband's arrival home, how did you still have time to meal plan, cook an amazing gourmet meal for your family, using vegetables from your organic garden, and feel as though you spent some quality time with your babies rather than letting them hang out with Elmo all day? Or, did you? Is that how do it? Let Elmo babysit them?

If you're a frequent reader of my blog, you've heard me tackle this topic before. I've already given up on showers, dressing myself for the day, and even dressing my kids for the day, for something better. But, dinner? Dinner is now the hardest part of my day. And, for some reason, I've always felt guilty about not creating something exciting and appetizing for my hardworking husband to come home and enjoy with his family. 

I've stressed out about it, cried over it, and have sought so much advice to figure out how other moms make it happen. Moms: I've seen the pictures you post of your dinner. It looks amazing and I wish I could create the same thing from my kitchen. But, God has stepped in and has told me to give it up. 

So, I have. At least for now. And it feels so good! God's assured me that dinner isn't worth the stress and anxiety that has filled this house since having two little ones while learning how to balance life. The sweat that drips from my forehead between 4:30-5:30pm every evening is not worth it. The never-ending guilt of sticking my babies in front of the t.v. so Pinterest can teach me how to perfectly sauté a brussel sprout is not worth it. So, for now, while my babies are little and need my undivided, un-showered and unpresentable attention? Hubs gets a frozen vegetable, potato or rice, and meat. Because, I've given up on dinner for something better. 

And are you wondering what's better than a delicious, home cooked meal made with stress (because, I assure you, those meals I tried to create in the past weren't made with love)? A rested, relaxed, and happy home. Simple food for hungry tummies, but even more delicious smiles, hugs, and kisses being thrown around the dinner table, rather than a grumpy and distressed wife. And even an added bonus: greater appreciation for the few times I do make a delicious steak stir fry, a killer salad, or a hearty fettucini with homemade alfredo sauce.  Giving up on dinner has been the best decision I've made yet as a mom, wife, and daughter of God, and I think my husband and children would all agree.

“An unpeaceful mind cannot operate normally. Hence the Apostle teaches us to “have no anxiety [stress] about anything” (Phil. 4:6). Deliver all anxious thoughts to God as soon as they arise. Let the peace of God maintain your heart and mind (v. 7).” - Watchman Nee {source}

What good are you giving up for an opportunity to receive something better?